Hey there, gorgeous gals!

I was wondering how often you all have experienced your male partner’s drop in sex drive?

I’ve experienced this with most of my long-term relationship partners and I can’t help but feel that it’s me causing them to not want to have sex. The reason I feel that is that the relationship starts out with us having sex several times a week and within a year or so drops off to once a month, once every other month, or longer...

I’ve asked each partner what the reason is and they all say that they just don’t have a strong desire to have sex. I’ve asked them if there’s anything I can do to help. I’ve told them to be brutally honest because I can’t fix an issue if I don’t know about it. I always come up with nothing. No clue about how to make it better. (For the record, I’m washing like there’s no tomorrow, I Kegel, and my technique never gets less than positive reviews from what I see/hear.)

I have talked to each partner (with whom I’ve had this issue) about this being kind of an issue while trying not to be hurtful, and they always say that they’re sorry but they just have no drive, and they never do anything about it. I don’t know what to do. Any advice?